Learn to Assert Yourself

Learn to Assert Yourself

Assertive behaviour may sound risky and difficult, but you may find the risks worth taking and the difficulty worth overcoming when you begin to see the positive results.

Learn to distinguish aggressive from assertive behaviour and know when assertive behaviour should be utilised.

You will become a new and courageous person.

Assertiveness

Pinpoint your own blocks to assertiveness: fear of disapproval, need to please others, fear of being too masculine or feminine, or the dread of making mistakes.

Visualise yourself dealing effectively with a problem situation by considering alternative responses.

Do not act hastily or in anger - calm yourself before the confrontation - take a deep breath with eyes closed and concentrate on controlling your temper.

Calm and Collected

Practice remaining calm, collected, courteous.

Be prepared to present yourself rationally and factually without emotion or conjecture.

Avoid making mountains out of molehills.

Pursuing an issue that is small will discredit you when an important issue needs to be faced and resolved.

Dealing With Situations

Repeat this step as often as necessary until you can comfortably imagine yourself dealing with the situation.

Assertiveness cannot always get you everything you want or force others to change.

Yet it is far more effective than being submissive or aggressive.

Assertiveness interacts with other communication and relationship skills.

You need not always be assertive, but it is necessary to know how to be assertive when you wish to be.

Gradually Build Changes

Build your changes in behaviour gradually by choosing small problems prior to tackling more central areas of your life.

Allow others time to acclimate themselves to hearing from you in your new voice.

Once you have begun to function more assertively in your interactions, you are in the position to encourage that trait in others.

This article was contributed by CEO, A.E. Schwartz & Associates, Boston, MA

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